South Korea has the lowest fertility rate in the world. This year it’s fallen to 0.72 (down from 0.78 in just a year!) and in the capital region around Seoul, it’s just 0.55. Compare that to the replacement rate of 2.1. This BBC article asks the question: Why? So, I’m just going to pull out a few quotes that I feel answer the question pretty convincingly:
“It’s hard to find a dateable man in Korea - one who will share the chores and the childcare equally,” she tells me, “And women who have babies alone are not judged kindly.”
Yejin works a traditional 9-6 job (the Korean equivalent of a 9-5) but says she usually doesn’t leave the office until 8pm and there is overtime on top of that. Once she gets home, she only has time to clean the house or exercise before bed. […]
“Sometimes at the weekends I go and get an IV drip, just to get enough energy to go back to work on Monday,” she adds casually, as if this were a fairly normal weekend activity.
From the age of four, children are sent to an array of expensive extra-curricular classes - from maths and English, to music and Taekwondo.
The practice is so widespread that to opt out is seen as setting your child up to fail, an inconceivable notion in hyper-competitive Korea. This has made it the most expensive country in the world to raise a child.
Minji confided that her childhood and 20s had been unhappy.
“I’ve spent my whole life studying,” she said - first to get into a good university, then for her civil servant exams, and then to get her first job at 28.
She remembers her childhood years spent in classrooms until late at night, cramming maths, which she loathed and was bad at, while she dreamed of being an artist.
“I’ve had to compete endlessly, not to achieve my dreams, but just to live a mediocre life,” she said. “It’s been so draining.”
Only now, aged 32, does Minji feel free, and able to enjoy herself. She loves to travel and is learning to dive.
But her biggest consideration is that she does not want to put a child through the same competitive misery she experienced.
“Korea is not a place where children can live happily,” she has concluded.
Minsung’s answer surprises me. “I’d love to have children. I’d have 10 if I could,” So, what’s stopping her, I ask? The 27-year-old tells me she is bisexual and has a same-sex partner.
Same-sex marriage is illegal in South Korea, and unmarried women are not generally permitted to use sperm donors to conceive.